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Lessons in Freedom from Common Sense in Parenting
Kyoko Takaishi

186 mm x 130 mm
200pages
JPY1,700
ISBN 9784790717565
Pub date: June 2021

Is parenting fun?　No, it is not that simple! The “common sense” that “this is how a mother should be” binds the minds of mothers. What is important is for the nurturer’s mind to be free and lively. This book unravels the prejudice towards “mothers” in society and in mothers themselves, and considers the parent-child relationship in anticipation of parting. Recommended by poet Machi Tawara.

Table of Contents
Introduction The “Parenting is Fun” Trap

The Experience of a New Mother

Chapter 1: Meeting the Baby: Mothers are “born” too
Chapter 2: A servant of breast milk?: If you get too close, that’s all you’ll see.
Chapter 3: The arrival of the earliest stage: a battle that must not be won
Chapter 4: Why is the age of three so important?
Chapter 5: Cloth or Paper Diapers: Sifting Through the Advice

Parenting Without Trying

Chapter 6: Mothers Cannot Raise Human Children Alone: Making Dad a Comrade
Chapter 7: “Me” Trying Hard Won’t Work: Parenting as a Team
Chapter 8: Raising a Kid: Bonding through Conflicts　
Chapter 9: Dealing with Negative Emotions: Letting Go by Talking
Chapter 10: The Dramatic Drug of Distance: Being a Good Mother

Unleashing the Heart

Chapter 11: Inner Child, Inner Mother: Listening to Your Heart
Chapter 12: Tips for Breaking Up with Friends of Guilt: Don’t Get Caught Up in Negative Causes and Effects
Chapter 13: A Lesson in Farewell: Loneliness and Pride
Chapter 14: The Goal of Parenting: Cultivating the Ability to Be Alone
Chapter 15: The Landscape of Raising a Child: Living Your Own Life

Afterword